Love brings with it both desire and respect.
Desire for the loved one and respect for his or her wishes.
All too often desire dominates and we neglect respect.
But if we truly love the beloved we will respect their wishes.
Sometimes our desire is so strong that we overlook the fact that the object of our desire is a human being with a will and rights of their own.
This is where respect can save us from violating the rights of the loved one, either physically or emotionally.
We must respect the wishes of the loved one no matter whether they fall in with our desires or not.
Sometimes we must sacrifice our desire in order to respect the wishes of the loved one.
There will hopefully be other opportunities to express our desire with others.
To men who are unable to reciprocate the desire of another man I would say:
Rather than rejecting us violently.
Let us down gently.